Internalising The Body Language Of Ghosts: A Poem

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You never responded to the result

Of your actions, the terrible end product

That would never end, that always set ends

To everybody and everything in slow motion,

In taught motion, yours, everlasting, ever burdening,

Her shoulders, moulded by your condemnations,

The pitfall of your nails, the flesh, her salty skin

On the bed, on the tip of your tongue, stardust, erased,

Forgotten, swallowed, in a haze.

 

Your mother told you how awful women were,

How despicable, how stupid, she fought against her

Own sex, disconnected from herself and her body,

The men that beat her, put on a pedestal, a man’s right,

She let destruction happen to her, teaching her boys

That women are the worst and she would take their punches,

Orchestrating her own demise, why, and for what, they’d

See her as the only exception, maybe that was the point,

The holy mother, the only good woman amongst them all.

 

But she hated herself. She didn’t live, she gave, her life,

To you, you devoured it, took every piece of her flesh,

She considered it rubbish, disembowelled, away with it,

Away from her, misogyny in women, the sex, unfelt and gone,

The breasts in the way, untouched, unappreciated, robotic,

She banished them from her body, out of mind, flesh bursting

From her flesh, nothing more, she unsexed herself, dehumanised herself

For the sake of raising boys, she broke them, they internalised her

Self-loathing, her depreciation of everything female, so cold, so repulsed.

 

And she had a daughter. The weak link. The body of pure agony.

The sufferer. All of them. I wonder how she must have felt under

Your mother’s damaged wings, the father’s permanent violence,

Showing it off, the vicious power, the abuse, his hands, his fits,

How he was still the king of his own world, everybody crouched

And shivering, wanting to be hurt, wanting to feel connected,

Through pain that the child misinterprets as love, it’s what they could

Get, from them, all they could get, the comfort of the familiar, the

Prison, still idealised, still praised, still replicated, nurtured.

 

There’s a reason why you were the way you were.

There’s a reason why she is mentally ill.

Stuck in a marriage, taking the beatings.

Letting her son be shunned, nowhere to be found.

The code of honour is to never break the vicious cycles.

Every generation owning it to the other to stick to the inherited guns,

Fights. Loyal to the dead.

And wade through the same old godforsaken shit.

 

All of you, mentally insane, planting the seeds, keeping it going.

The mother, beaten to death. The brother collapsing from one

Mental institution (that has nothing to do with healing) to the next,

Almost eviscerating his own family with his urge for decomposition.

 

The daughter seems a lost cause too, addicted to the suffering,

Thinking she couldn’t do it as well and gracefully as her mother,

Couldn’t live up to her mother, accepting the sickness to spread.

She is doing the same thing to her daughter, devouring her,

Needing her until death parts them both.

 

And then there’s you.

 

You, the other brother, you who fled, but took it all with you

Anyhow just to end up creating your own version of it,

Thinking you’re liberated without ever realising that every

Single part of you was still living in that war zone that never

Wanted to end, until almost all of us, shut you out, cut it out, stopped it,

Then and there, here and now, every single day.

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3 Replies to “Internalising The Body Language Of Ghosts: A Poem”

  1. Amen! A testament to the power of the Menotr/Tonrmentor lineage line that continues… until something like this poem steps up to Bruce-Lee-Style deflate their over-inflated power with the power of seeing what actually is rather than through the morales and bind spots of expectation born of it.

    “Thinking you’re liberated without ever realising that every
    Single part of you was still living in that war zone that never
    Wanted to end, until almost all of us, shut you out, cut it out, stopped it,
    Then and there, here and now, every single day.”

    Amen~Awomen-hotep. Until he realizes how he is feeding the wrong Wolf, he’ll have neither. Excellent Iado-single-head-lop-cut. There is no “until further notice” with these kinds of things. The boundary set is simply set. No decision. No ultimatum. Just is. Just a consummate consequence of the context, and there’s NO taking it out of context for reasons to discuss. In that regard, reasons are wholly unreasonable. One can be influenced by one’s Ancestors, though cannot shoulder their mis-steps as that is anti-contextually and experientially absurd in regard to the facts.

    EXCELLENT poem that I hope a great many will see to step up wise in time AT the time to admonish this kind of behavior/experience. It reeks of unresolved traumas that are lineage long, though I can not heed that into present tense being responsible… except when THEY play the same cards in that poisonous cycle of eternal apology. Much better to write a poem such as “Internalising the Body of Ghosts” to provide an egg-tooth to lacerate the lineage-long-abuse-snake-eggshell and burst the rest o the family into the light to shine on the shadows… and watch them scurry… and stop them in their tracks… and, “What’s up with your actions, the terrifyingly unreal things you’ve done?” They may never respond, though with this poem and stop-dropping their escape they can become the flat tire in the family they are… and leave it at that.

    I would recommend that “Internalising the Body Language of Ghosts” be submitted to The Depth Psychology Alliance. They may have a place for it in important and related articles/case studies to provide some credence and hope for people going through this. Just a thought.

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    1. Jordan, your words are so POWERFUL. Everything you have said to me from the very beginning has stayed with me, helped me, and your comments inspire me so much on a daily basis and make me see things even more clearly because you find the perfect spot-on words. So much is happening behind the scenes in resonance with what you write here and I am so grateful for that. I hope you can feel that. Thank you. I mean, this sentence for example: “In that regard, reasons are wholly unreasonable. One can be influenced by one’s Ancestors, though cannot shoulder their mis-steps as that is anti-contextually and experientially absurd in regard to the facts.”. YES! You understand, you see, you have the X-ray vision, my friend, I really appreciate your substantiality and your depth. They are so rare and I hold them high. I will have a look at the Alliance suggestion. Thank you.

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